This is a question that many people would like to know and here are some answers that researchers have come up with form studies also a lot of my own research.
Black men date white girls because it's simply another piece of ass added to their dick. Black men date white girls because they are weaker and show little strength. Black men will leave their family and children behind to date a white girl in my opinion who's the weak one? It takes a strong man and a real man to take care of his children and family and still date whom ever you like. Black men dating or marrying white girls with false intentions is what's wrong. You should not date a different race because of your experiences with your people, remember there are two sides to every story and to have a relationship work for one you must have honesty. To whom ever was making all the dishonest actions should be the people whom shall look at themselves. A lot of black men are unhappy with themselves and they feel as though a white woman will be able to except them for being a weak man, this is a dead wrong move.
When we get in any a relationship no matter the color of a person we should go in with honesty, love, and support. Most black men come into a relationship with a white woman and they are dishonest, lazy, broke, and unhappy with self, no strength and so on. Problem with this is some white girls want a piece of the black man so bad that they are blind of these men intentions. The black man feeds in their heads that they are going to get a job soon and they blame there pass relationship with the black woman as a reason why they don't have a job or have failed at moving faster. It sound crazy doesn't is? But it's true men do every day. If a man comes into the relationship dishonest chances are he will be that way through out the whole relationship unless he gains strength and responsibility. White woman most of the time are so blind to see this mainly because the black man has told them so many painted bad things that happen in there last relationship that the white woman feels secure that he will not go back to black wombmen.
Most black men still date black girls on the side due them knowing that black is all they can really think about. Black woman hold warrior strength and they get mad and angry because they want their black men to be honest, responsible, supportive and so on. Black wombman hold so much power and strength because they have so much support from ancestors and they can reach out to other sisters and get honest support. On the other hand black men hold egos when it comes to giving brother-to-brother support. What I mean by this is black men show weakness for the truth even if it means telling there own brothers a lie they will. In my opinion if men would live there lives as family men and support the family they would see the struggles that black woman face in this world too. But for some men they do see the struggles but they are so selfish and think all about themselves.
Black woman are up against "Barbie doll" figures and MTV bodies. Look at all the go, go dancers in the world and tight jeans and little tops etc. We as a people have to fight in our minds this entire ass that's being thrown at our men and how they are not strong warrior men. I remember not to long ago I went out for a meeting with a friend to go over some music. We meet in a club which we found out later that is was a bad idea due to all the noise but before we left I had ask him do he have a girl friend he said yes. So he says as a matter of fact I have a picture of her right here. He reaches in his wallet and shows me a picture of this woman and he's proud of it. Just by him showing me that it put a smile on my face. Out of all the men I know I meet I see or have conversations with I never seen a man pull out a picture unless it was his children. By the way he's a white guyyeah you didn't know I was going to say that huh? But it's true and I thought it was such an honest move.
Now this guy knows that I think he's cool and he's good looking too but never mind that, he loves his girl and guess what that's not itshe was a black wombman. Now see that should I say that white men show more love for a sister and respect. No I should not. Sister's too should be respectful of other sisters men and that just shows the disrespect in our sisters instead of trying to uplift that man to do the right thing they too are weak and have no respect for them self...any how. I love black men with brains with an artistic hand a man that holds honesty in his hands and is willing to give it away at anytime to show the respect for me also to show that he wants to change. I want a man that loves my children and a man that will help me out with the bills and will not let me pay 95f all the bills and 99f all the honesty and 90f all the cleaning and 98f the time taken out the trash then 95f the time giving all the love then 100f the time trying to convince that my black man needs to be a warrior and a King and help take care of our Temple.
For the sake of our Children and the sake that one day our daughters will one day meet a man like them and fall victim of false love. As for our son who will teach him to be a respectful men to wombman? I guess I will be the man and the wombman huh? No problem I'm already that you dig?
I am not alone with this and my search for a man no mater his color is I search for a man that wants a conscious thinker. An honest person has to offer his or her honestythat's honesty and true love. Not manipulation to control or to get over to train ones mind to think what is not really love but lust. I call people with knowledge that get over on weaker minds "Conscious Spiritual Pimps". In all honesty I love my stretch marks and I love my large breast and I love my noise my hair, my legs, my arms, by ass, my back, my front and every thing in between yeah I said what many of you are afraid to say who cares it's the truth.
I love myself more than I have ever and no matter what choices our "black" men make I will continue to uplift and keep putting the word out for them to do better. I would love to see the day that all men and wombman can be strong and faithful. Children get left behind with single parents and it's a shame that sometimes when men who do move on to white woman and have children by them that child gets to have a father but a as for the previous child or children they get left behind with any left (white kid gets the father but a black child looses one) over time that he may have. Then that's when I real "Baby Momma Drama" starts. I use to think that all children were a blessing but to be even more blunt and honest even the devil could come in the image of a child. With that being sad to all my sista's that are experiencing this remember that saying we told these men " One day your going to get punished for all the wrongs you've done" yes and I know you could add like a thousand more lines to this but with all that being saiddon't worry about it you are bless and a warrior stands up and read in between the lines of life.
Look beyond the horizons of pain and see past the clouds and the planets get next level with your spirit and the reason for change and how every person in your life is places for a reason. Ask your self this question as I use toohere comes the questionif the creator came to you one day and said (I'm going to use my name you use yours)
God -Raquel I have a mission for you
Raquel - Yes God what is the mission you have for me?
God I'm going to have you fall in love with a beautiful man he will say he loves you he'll stop pass your job and bring you nice things, he'll also massage you and tell you how pretty you are. This man will teach you many things that you'll need later on in life. He's a smart man and loves to go out and have fun.
Raquel Ow that sounds good to me
God Hold up I'm not done
Raquel O my bad
God You will love him like you never thought was ever possibleyou'll have so many good times at the beginning but then he will cheat on you.
Raquel O God no thanks
God My child you must listen
Raquel OK
God you'll cry for nights at a time some nights he will not come home and he'll be out with other women. This will go on for years and each year it will only get worst. You'll also have a child
Raquel Finally some good news
God I'm not finish yet my child
Narrator -*a tear falls from here eyes* God continues to speak
God but not into three years into the relationship. This man will hit you tie you up hold you down and you'll be very afraid of him but your love over comes the painyou'll stay around because you fell like you can not live with out him and you think he will change soon. You'll also try to kill yourself and drink sometimes before bed to sleep to help hide the pain. A son will be born from your womb but while your pregnant he will still cheat on you and give you tears after tears and pain after pain but still you'll stay. During these years you will never talk to any one about your real relationship with him and you'll continue to smile even in the streets when you know that when you get home the pain begins again.
Narrator At this point Raquel is ready to brake down and cry she is at the point of passing out from this news but instead she's in shock and she just listens.
God This man will cheat on you still and then live a double life at the end he will be with a white woman and be engage to her and she'll get pregnant.
Raquel What the
God My child I can't tell you anything else about the ending of this mission but I will tell you that you will become a stronger person and a lesson will be learned.
Raquel God I know your intentions are good and you will protect me but 6 years of pain and the happiness starts after the sixth yearGod I don't want this mission no thank you.
The End
See what I mean people I know that you all would probably say no not knowing what the out come would be no matter what the creator may tell you, all you see is those long years of pain and the worst part? Your child is in the story. This is the reason I believe that the creator sends us on a learning mission/s with out asking us first, reason? If every one said no to the mission/s then how would we learn our lessons from one another? How would we find our strengths if it weren't for our experiences? Think about it?
The devil has plans too we have to be milti-brain-ded (a word I made up) in order to see through the pain. Look with the third eye and not the one's that are visibly seen with your own.
I love you all and I hope this helps many people out. I'm not asking for any one to agree with me. This is how I observe my life lessons and missions. These are all my true experiences and maybe I look into things to deep you may say. But guest what life is deep and if you don't think conscious about why you are here and what moves you make. The more you'll be in deep shit and the more missions you'll be sent on. Think about it. Just remember the devil could come in many forms even the form of a child and spiritual conscious pimps are pimping all the time.
The lesson here is no matter the color of the person as long as you love and respect that person and make conscious decisions you should be able to love any one and see the mission/lesson you have been sent on.
Peace that's my time and I'm out!
Why do you think I end all my words in "Conscious Womb Thinking" for my sister's & "Conscious Wombman Thinking" for my brother's?
Think about it!
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ZION DAWTA FIYAH!!!!!
keep strong sis , you need to come to az. for the hot springs and gaze upon the midnight stars and hear the wild coyotes howl. maybe grow some corn!!!
Posted by ZION DAWTA FIYAH!!!!! on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 12:51 AM
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Raquel
Sound really sweet sis thanks for the invite. I loved our phone conversation very nice and uplifting. The creators of a healing path has me and I'm just learning to be more open and free. I love you sis thanks a bunch "growing corn" sounds fun! Can we grow some conscious men too? LOL yeah I know the answer to this one huh?
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Posted by Raquel on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 12:57 AM
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RastagrrlJahLive
dear raquel
i hear your pain its not a balck white thing really.. if u think about it the other woman did u a favor. does she really think shes got a prize??? she should think again in afew years.. hes gonna do it again to her because thats how they met in deciet and ugliness.. no betta for them.. My husband left me for at least 3 other woman.. another white old woman, a sister.. a "rasta" sister at that.. another whole story on that..and a native sister. Am I angry at these women?? Not at all they took away the source of my pain and the begeter of beatings both physical and emotional.. Are they going to find out eventually?? Bet!! Karma follows responsibility and I've been as loving and resposible as Jah has allowed me to be.. Now i'm blessed and on to bigger and better things.. after the darkness the dawn sister.. it has got to get better!!Stupid women get what they need..smart women get what they deserve.Queens can choose and warriors and healers can change and win. You are obviously all of these and more.. Create in yourself a beautiful tonight.. the tommorrow will come and evrything will be made manifest perfectly as it always is in time..Cry now laugh later or laugh now and cry later.. its all the drama game..You are so much better than u know.
one love my tired sister.. lay down your arms and get busy!! The new dawn is breaking and u should be ready for rooms of blessings and cupboards of Love.
All your tears have watered the new dream.. wake up and live!! the new tommorrow promised to u.its closer than u think.Look out with new eyes and keep your balance.. thank God u didnt waste one more minute with this loser and go on and claim what u paid for already.. u could have spent 10 years with him (like I did)..I could have done less time for murder.. but no i was all stupid and supportive while he did whatever he wanted with the whole color spectrum of sisters here.. and in a small town nothing goes by unnoticed..nonetheless I and I am here tonight to tell u God dint let it go unnoticed as well and has something so much better for u your children and yer lil son.. where men fail God will pick up.. Raquel...the wife of God?? He will provide!!
Blessings from Tucson!! coyote and owl love.. the moon whispers in the desert pines.
Jah reigns forever
RastafarI
DahviaI
Been thru the fire and never burned( beyond recognition.. smile)
Posted by RastagrrlJahLive on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 1:44 AM
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Raquel
Sis what powerful words to say to me. It shows your wisdom and heart in a whole. I love you for reaching out and taking the time out to care a bout a sister. It's people like you and I who need to live in a world with people like us. Our children would also be better people when they too grow up and learn that respect, honesty, love and support that will make the world last forever. I know I have not been a perfect person in my days or even in his and my relationship but one thing for dam sure I never cheated or stop loving him.
I to have many things to learn and my mission is never going to be over. I thank you sis again and thank the creator for sending people like you in my path of healing.
Hetep-u
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Posted by Raquel on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 1:51 AM
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The Creation Steppin'
It’s so hard to be a man and say this but…Man is a horrible creature…Don’t get me wrong, man feels love and hurt just like women…But you will never hear a man say conscious man thinking ((a play your signature closer witch makes me love you all the more)) because there is no such thing as a conscious man…Man all man Black White Yellow Brown…or Green for that matter know no more then instant gratification, Man will prey on the week because man is an unconscious hunter…Man knows not what is best for himself…Only what works for the moment,
I tell all scorn women the same thing…Man does not change women, Women changes man…The stronger women is, the stronger man has to be…If man runs for weaker pray, he himself is truly the fragile one…
Never let man allow you to establish prejudice, or man will have made you weak, And man can not do that to a conscious women
We send you our love,
~The Creation Steppin’ Crew~
Posted by The Creation Steppin' on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 2:40 AM
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Raquel
I'm very happy to see that a man has replied to this for this is not only a wombman struggle. We as a people should help one another out for overstanding the problems that we all have. Just by you stating that "no man is conscious" tells me you are thinking consciously even if it's the real you, you did admit to your wrong actions.
I never spoken with you before other than getting all your trivia questions right LOL. You also said you love me more for this and I too love you more for thinking consciously about sisters and the struggles. This is the type of conscious thinking I keep talking about...people need the real about one another not that fake ego "O I'm going to look like a punk if I say that crap".
I love a man that will stand up and state what he has to work on and you are on the path of some true consciousness. I will continue to help my brother's be more aware of self and the consciousness of actions. I thank you again for being real with me and that I love too.
I know that a wombmen change men and that's the reason I believe the creator has taken his father from me so that I can save my son and make him a conscious man for a Queen that deserves to be love with honesty. By the way your quote "you will never hear a man say conscious man thinking" I know that you did not say that to mean anything bad alos guess what? My son will.
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Posted by Raquel on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 2:58 AM
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Aum Mu Ra - aka: I of the Storm
I feel where you are coming from. It's really difficult for me to say anything on this subject because I'm not in your shoes. However, I do know that us Black men need to get ourselves together on multiple levels. In my opinion, we are collectively the laughing stock of the world. We've fallen for every trick that the Devil has placed for us and are practically reduced to the status of children. That's why we are always running around trying to prove how much "Man" we are. We've allowed this system to shape us into wimps. What kind of Man begs for work from another Man? What kind of Man misstreats the Mother of his Children? Answer: He's not a Man. A Man paves his own way with the tools given to him by the creator. How can Gods get their livelyhoods from Devils? We were all born with synonymous capabilities if not more. We need to use our own universe-given capabilities to build our own realities. We suffer because we have turned away from the creator. We can no longer blame others for our wrong doing, but must step up to our own divinity and get to work for ourselves and raise our families correctly. That's why we can't provide for our families because we are too deep in bed with our enemies. The first enemy being ourselves. We don't need a goddamnned revolution. Common sense tell me that in a revolution you start at one point and go around until you reach that same point...we need to do a 180 and walk away from this culture of death called America that we are all glorifying. We are on the road to a slow suicide. I can say more on this, but I'm so angry that I can go no further right now.
Posted by Aum Mu Ra - aka: I of the Storm on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 3:22 AM
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Raquel
From day one I new you was going to play a big part in my life. I had no way of knowing what type but I'm finding out more and more why you and I are friends.
You make me love you more and more every time you write me. I love the way you express and reach out to me with your heart in your hands. You hold a place in my heart that leads to the path of healing with out ego's.
You are what the great ancestors are smiling about right now...you are what the great ancestors sent to help me out...you are a gift to me. I know there are only about 3 out of a million men that think consciously and I think that the creators has place the only three in my path I feel bless to know that some men do think.
I remember telling my son father weeks ago that I know of no conscious men in my life and how I wanted him to change that for our son but most of all for his self. I wanted him to go home and tell his girl that he's been doing wrong behind her back.
Now I can say that I do know of man or men that do think consciously. Just when I thought it could never happen it did. Maybe I'm speaking to fast but I feel that you are what you are, and I feel that you are true peace and lesson in my path.
I think you for being a conscious thinker and this explains to me why I have 3oo + friends on my list and only 1 third of them are men that I don't ever talk to about real issues. This is some deep stuff and I love you Aum Mu Ra.
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Posted by Raquel on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 3:39 AM
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Alena
Ah sistah girl. This was so eloquently put. Even though you may not hear from me a lot..you will definitely be hearing from me so please don't change the numbers without letting a sistah know.
peace and love
alena
Posted by Alena on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 3:42 PM
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Raquel
Thanks for the kind words Alena. We do reason about things, no matter phone or email we do keep in touch so no worries. Thanks for taking time out to read my blogs and being a subscriber.
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Posted by Raquel on [25 Feb 2006 | Saturday] at 3:47 PM
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Divine Blackness
Just listenin' and takin' in, sis.
Don't have much to say.....just wanted to let you know I was reading.
Posted by Divine Blackness on [26 Feb 2006 | Sunday] at 12:55 AM
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Raquel
Give thanks for your time I'm glad you came by to read. If you want to talk later let me know...I feel your energy sis reach out to me any time.
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Posted by Raquel on [26 Feb 2006 | Sunday] at 2:50 AM
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Survivor
My mother was White and my father; Black... They dated because they were simply attracted to each other...My father risked police brutality and ostricism by his family to be seen with my mother in public...My mother lost her entire family to marry my father...they struggled, and fought for every apartment, job, and family friend they had...
Generalizations are ignorant...that's one of the BIGGEST problems between races...GENERALIZATIONS...
Let us change that...
Posted by Survivor on [26 Feb 2006 | Sunday] at 11:08 PM
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Raquel
John give thanks for your comment I do remember the first time I seen you on stage at the Nuyorican your poetry about your brother, mother, father and others in your family bought me to tears.
As you pored your feeling out you too was at tears but you kept holding on while still trying to express your life story. I my self am not a racist or ignorant to this issue and this is why we need more people such as your self to express how generalization and many other issues is what's the problems are.
My family too is from a large background of hate a abuse due to the color of ones outer body. My grandmother and grandfather was hated on all the time and at times it was hard for them too but we made out strong.
Most people who are not aware of this pain that some of us go through will never understand these issues but the part every one does understand is lies, lies, and more lies will bring nothing but pain and sometimes that pain of a lie can be worst than and racial remark. Just remember this topic was ment to open eyes and show respect for self and the women of this world no matter the color we should love and respect them just as your mother and father showed.
Thanks for your comment John I can't wait to see you much love.
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Posted by Raquel on [26 Feb 2006 | Sunday] at 11:21 PM
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Regis
umm, this is too deep. It aint that serious. Its simply put like this. Some find them attractive and dont give a crap about racial limitations. Some dont like putting up with the strong black womans attitude, so they put up with a yes man (most white women are just that). Personally, I would NEVER date a white woman simply because Im not attracted to them. I always thought that black men who couldnt deal with black women couldnt deal with them selves. I have NO problem with interacial relationships even though it hurts me to see someone prefer another over their own tribe. MY THING IS THIS.......People do allllllll of this preaching about how they was hurt by a black man or couldnt deal with a black woman....WHY oh WHY do you feel like the only option is to date white people? I mean the white race aint a pot of gold n shit. True color blind love would let your love grow for all races from Black, Asian, Indian, Brazilian, Spanish, etc etc.
Honestly, the only reason why I accepted black men dateing white women is because as I grew up I seen so many black women with white men. Its in the books that master played the black woman closer by letting her in the house while the black man stayed outside. The breeding started with black women and white men first....then these crackas fell in love with the black queen....Fact of the matter is that we really dont need to question why black folk date white people anymore. We need to ask ourselves why black men date black men or why black women date black women. I think thats more serious and more of a lost than interacial relationships. Not only does it violate our race, but it violates GOD too.
Posted by Regis on [27 Feb 2006 | Monday] at 1:08 AM
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Raquel
Peace Regis thanks for comment I feel you. Gay men and women are issues but just as racist and lies been around so has gay people. I use to say dam if gay meant "We don't cheat we respect" then it would be look at with a whole lot more respect but it does not.
All these issues are still issues in our life at one time or another one may seem more important than the other at the time depending on what one may be going through. As for me all of them are important at the same time and all need to be address. But to take it back to the topic here no need for the name calling or pointing the finger. My objective is to open peoples minds up about truth, care, and respect for one another's.
No matter how much one may feel towards the other race no matter the tribe, hood, community, temple, congregation etc. we are being lied to out side of our homes by the president, pastor, doctors, lawyers, etc. Home should not be a place where bad energy lurks around especially when children are involved. Now I'm not saying it's cool to lie out side the home because it's not. The point here is lying starts where? Some may say TV, school, church, etc with knowing all of that and still having to depend on TV (Tel-lies-visually) why do you think it's so important to be told the truth?
Just look at it like this and I'm kind of repeating myself but I have to say this. Why do people make a big deal about the president lying? Why do we make a big deal about researchers lying about our history? Why do we make a big deal about...here comes the stupid ghetto shit...who has the most money Jay-z or Puffy? See what I mean? What means more to you? Most if not all people want the truth and rather they can handle it or not they should know. The BS that gets me is if someone wants to know the turth then that person/s should not hold back information that can could help a person move on do better. Sometimes our own people want us to suffer with them and not see us move on.
To answer my own question what means more to me than any of these things are telling my children the truth about self respect and love for them-self and how to respect the person that they love. I want my children to look at me and respect me because I love them and respect them too. As for a man that wants to be in my life him to must feel as passionate about honesty and respect, after all we have to raise children rather it be our own or someone else's we all are in this together. Just remember when one person does something wrong it effect every one. Remember domino's? I could go on with this Regis but I will not at least not here. If you would like to talk more on this your more than welcome to call me. Thanks again for taking the time out to read and express.
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Posted by Raquel on [27 Feb 2006 | Monday] at 1:42 AM
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Regis
thats true, one active event effects all. No doubt, i respect your mission sista.
Posted by Regis on [27 Feb 2006 | Monday] at 11:40 AM
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Raquel
Thanks for Regis no worries all is love this is part of my mission to help people open up and show respect for one another all is love again. This was created to heal not incriminate.
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Posted by Raquel on [27 Feb 2006 | Monday] at 11:49 AM
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*~:: Miss Niya :: ~*
Some of what you wrote was eye openign for me today. I dotn have any black/white issues per se when it comes to relationships. However, a lot of the charcteristics you spotted in white women I found in myself. that hurt like a bitch. See, my skin's not dark enough, my hips arent wide enough, stomach is too flat, not busty enough, ass isnt big enough and i used to think that was my redemption, my hair isnt kinky enough, my attitude isnt bold enough, my words arent slang enough, and the "black people" think that because of these things I've had an easy life. So with that being said, you can imagine why finding the weak characteristics of a white woman may bother me a little. But i got over that when i began to love myself. I mean REALLY love myself. and I was doing so well. Then I fell in love again. From the moment I lay eyes on him I knew he was the one. his skin , his demanor, his mystery. Then I started to wonder if i was giving him enough space to think and to breathe. Not realizing that I was stifling myself. Then I became a wombman. for 8weeks I was a wombman. the joy, the idea, the responsibility, the loss, the pain. Now its over. He said I was too selfish, and needy and dependant. Not the black womban he wanted by far. And I saw it. or saw some parts of it anyway and it was a reminder that I was strong before and can be strong again. Stay Focused. Love Yourself. Succeed.
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